Yaoi

So I kinda sorta like yaoi…and by “like” I mean LOVE!

Before I start singing the praises of the genre here is a brief overview of some BL/Yaoi basics….

Yaoi 101

Yaoi, aka Boy’s Love (as defined by wiki) “is a genre of fictionalized media focusing on romantic and sexual relationships between male characters, typically aimed at female audiences.” Yaoi is a more sexual off shoot of shounen-ai, which depicts more tame male-on-male relationships. Most BL and yaoi focus on men, with little or no female presence within the plot. Male characters are plentiful and fit into one of two categories: Seme or Uke.

Semes

Semes usually, but not always display masculine characteristics. These men are referred to as the “tops” and are the dominant participants in the relationship. These characters are often more aggressive than their partners and are the ones who “give” during sexual intercourse. These men are usually strong, well built specimens who appeal to both men and women, and are often seen pursuing their prey uke.

I generally like confident and imposing semes, but that’s just me. It’s even better when the seme has a cute side that only his uke gets to see. There is something sexy about a man blushing that gets me all hot and bothered…now put some glasses on that seme…

Ukes

Ukes on the other hand are the “receivers” or bottoms. They are often more feminine in appearance and physically smaller than semes. These characters are often more reserved than their partners, rarely pushing the relationship. Most BL is told from their perspective giving insight into their thoughts and feelings, making them more relatable to the reader. Seme/Uke roles can be both permanent and impermanent with some couples choosing to reverse roles within the relationships (I personally like this). Also age has no bearings in who is a seme and who is an uke. Semes can be younger than their partners and ukes can be older and vise versa.

I prefer manly reluctant ukes, like Ranmaru from Iroku Irokoi Romantan. Someone who can go toe to toe with his partner and isn’t afraid to speak his mind, but is still hesitant to start a physical relationship. Or the flighty reluctant uke, like Takaba from the Finder series who is afraid of his budding feelings for the seme, so he runs away. Of course they come back, but the internal conflict really adds depth to the relationship without being too unrealistic. However,if the uke looks too much like a girl I can’t really get into it.


Where I Stand on the whole Yaoi/BL Thing…

Okay, so Yaoi/BL is not all sex…it can be…but not all of it is hot sexy man on man action…there’s plot too. Sometimes you have to look really hard to find it, but it’s there…

How I feel looking for the plot in BL …

I tend to enjoy BL that has a bit more substance to it (though Ayano Yamane’s Finder series is my guilty pleasure), I like watching the main couple interact outside of the bedroom. Good examles of this are Don’t Blame Me by Yugi Yamada and later half of the Finder series. By fleshing out character details the author add value to the relationships, which in turn makes the smut that much more gratifying. I especially love watching a particularly stubborn/ flighty uke finally succumb to the advances of his seme love.

There is just something exciting about two bishounen finally putting their issues to the side and admitting their undying love for one another. I also like seeing a supportive and realistic extended cast of characters, to give the relationship some real world context.

Now while enjoy BL there are some things I can’t stand.

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I hate triangles….love triangles are the bane of my existence. Sure some help boost the relationship and add a little drama to the plot, but most of the time they are just annoying interruptions (and that goes for any genre). I mean come on, it’s not like the uke is gonna leave his seme for an elevated extra, am I right!?

Shotacon makes me cringe…I was so shocked the first time I read shotacon, it’s something you just can’t unsee…EVER! There is just no tasteful way to execute it to make that type of relationship okay. But the number one thing that I abhor in BL are super girly ukes…If I want my seme to be with a girl I’ll read a shoujo, not a BL. Now some ukes, like Shuichi from Gravitation had me confused, I could have sworn he was a girl…I mean he has pink hair for Pete’s sake…It was only after my brother (8 at the time) walked in the room took one look at the TV and asked, “Are those two guys kissing?” that I realized my mistake….

Lastly, there is a special place for slash pairings….I respect the work, but if its not canon I can live without it (except maybe Levi/Eren artwork…that’s ALWAYS sexy).

 So how did you discover yaoi/BL? What was your first series/title? Do you have any suggestions for posts? Any burning questions? Want me to review a specific game, manga, or anime? Feel free to Comment on this post or Ask Me on my tumblr! As always Thank You for reading!

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14 thoughts on “So I kinda sorta like yaoi…and by “like” I mean LOVE!

      1. I don’t read a lot, but I’ve tried Sekaiichi Hatsukoi and Junjo Romantica. The sex is a bit jarring at first, but yeah, the foreplay is pretty great.

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      2. It’s standard yaoi with a good seme/uke flirting. I consider it a gateway work to yaoi. If you can stand junjo then you can go ahead and jump onto weirder stuff

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  1. Today I learned what Tops/Bottoms mean (I have some gay friends, but I never ask about their bedroom antics haha.) The only Yaoi show I have watched was Gravitation, which I thought was decent and had some good music.

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  2. I love Yaoi!!! They are my drug.
    Hm, well… I started reading/watching Yaoi like 3, or 2 years ago(?) and I really don’t remember how I found out about them, propably it was mentioned in an Otaku group, or something and you know I had to learn what it was. My first Yaoi was Pet Keiyaku… I think…
    At first I didn’t like it when it was getting romantic, because I thought it was, um, somehow wrong >.< But now I lo-lo-love it!!! Completely!!! And actually many Yaoi have plot and sometimes I am like "Ah, stop that shit I want them to fuck !" but the truth is it's more enjoyable when they have a plot and you get to know the characters.
    I HATE love triangles too… they are so annoying, so fucking annoyind and saaad!
    I have no problem with shotacon, well I don't really like them… I like more mature men, both in mind and body.
    I like dj ❤

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post and leave a comment!!

      Yes! Yaoi is my guilty pleasure for sure, I always find myself reading it from time to time when I’m between games or anime!

      Woah, I just looked up Pet Keiyaku and it looks so good!

      Same, i was weirded out by it at first too and then BAM, I was hooked! I’m partial to yaoi with plot, but from time to time I like seeing a good mindless F***!

      MATURE MEN FTW!!!

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